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Female (18) Durham, North Carolina
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Female (23) Durham, North Carolina
I am a 5’3 bisexual girl. I enjoy reading, writing, being around my cat, and spending time with people. I am not experienced in the world of BDSM/kink. I am a virgin.
Female (18) Durham, North Carolina
** I am POLYAMOROUS please please please if that’s all you read and you’re mono then save us both the time** I currently have a DD boyfriend and am looking for a woman as a primary partner for me that is a sub for him as well. As a sub I identify as a little/brat, masochist and prey. Finding another sub that is similar would be awesome and even a switch who would domme for me and sub for him. He has a family so taking some of my neediness off his plate would be amazing 😊 Outside of that I am poly, auDHD, spoonie (it’s definitely big for me to talk about physical can and cants but it doesn’t stop me very often), witchy, and nerdy in my own way. Not going to lie because it’s absolutely not fair to anyone, life is giving me a little bit of a go of it for the last 6-8 months. It’s starting to look up and get better but that doesn’t mean I’m not still working through the struggle that was thrown in my path. I have lost a lot more than I ever want to or wish upon anyone. Be patient with me. I deserve to be treated like the princess I am and will take no less just because times are hard and I need support.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
**Most of you will not ready profile BUT I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU DO!!**    MY DOM AND I ARE SEEKING A BISEXUAL OR BI CURIOUS WOMAN TO JOIN OUR DYNAMIC…WE HAVE SEVERAL OPTIONS.    AT DOM HAS A **WARDROBE AND MINDSET** FOR ANY SUB WHO ENTERS HIS HOME. THIS IS MEANT TO ENHANCE THE FUN. AND THIS IS A MINIMUM REQUIREMENT.    **WHAT WE SEEK:** My Dom and I are BOTH seeking to add another bisexual, curvy submissive woman to our dynamic. We seek to add to our dynamic in three ways: long term, short term training and playmate. **AGAIN, IF ONE OPTION DOES NOT WORK, THERE ARE TWO OTHERS**    **OPTIONS:**    The **long term submissive** we seek would **potentially** live with us. This is what we are primarily searching for but we understand everyone has different wants/needs and may have different life circumstances. This definitely requires a commitment of time and effort. This option is **24/7.** There are many benefits in exchange for your effort and submission. A few of which include **rent being split three ways, utilities being paid by the Dom, lots of cuddles with me, and two amazing people supporting and encouraging you to be the absolute best you that you can be!!!**    **Short term** is for a submissive who would like **IN PERSON** training. This also requires commitment of time and effort. **A schedule would be made by the Dom in conjunction with you for training in submission, bondage, impact play, wax play and various other curiosities. THIS INVOLVES TRAINING IN SUBMISSION…NOT JUST KINK.**    **Playmate** is open to any woman seeking to explore, play, and have fun. There is no commitment required but certain rules still apply.    **For long term and short term** there is a vetting process initially done through messaging and pictures or video chat. If you aren’t comfortable texting, video chatting and sending pictures we are not for you. After the initial vetting, an in person audition would be required (you must request this) at the Dom’s house. But don’t fret…I’m here to help!!! ?    **For all of the above options you must have a way to us…car, train, bus, Uber, etc…if you’re really interested you’ll make it happen…EFFORT**    Of all three options only ONE is **24/7.** If you have limited availability or are interested in exploring only kink there is still an option for you. Don’t get hung up on just reading the first option. Reading is fundamental, lol.    Our dynamic offers travel potential for the right submissive as the Dom works for the government and we both enjoy traveling as well. This is just ONE of the MANY benefits!!!    **ABOUT ME:** I have been a nurse for almost 13 years. Currently I work at an outpatient clinic on a military base. I left behind the chaotic days of mental health, emergency medicine and ambulatory surgery, lol. Though I realize I thrive under that chaos. I enjoy going to festivals, bowling, the beach/water, movies, restaurants, and wineries. I also enjoy staying in and relaxing. Outside can be too peopley, lol. I am more of a homebody than anything. I love writing and ***ting as well. It’s been a great release as I heal from and process my past trauma.    Sexually my interests vary. With a woman I love kissing and cuddling. I love the softness of a woman. I enjoy eating pussy more than I enjoy receiving (but I won’t stop you from returning the favor, lol). It’s one thing to make a man moan and cum but something different to make a woman moan and cum. I enjoy everything about a threesome. I love seeing my Dom pleased, seeing another woman pleased, being watched pleasing another woman and being watched with my Dom…it’s all so exciting.    As far as kinks I have many! I am definitely a masochist! I enjoy *** so impact play and wax play are two of my favorite kinks. The *** is freeing…rather euphoric. And I love all of the pretty marks left as a reminder. I enjoy restraints, some electric play, blindfolds, clamps, and so much more.    I’ve also recently divulged a (not so secret now) fantasy to my Dom of wanting to top another woman. He has begun to teach me. I’ve helped in a few scenes but I’d love to fully top during a scene if you’re brave enough to be my victim…I mean willing participant, hehe. But keep in mind while this is my fantasy and my Dom is fully supportive with me fulfilling it, I am still his sub, and he would be involved. I’m not seeking to be a Domme or switch even…merely explore my sexuality more.    I first got into submission when I was about 18 (man that makes me feel old!). I initially only explored the kink side of submission. I had always been a little “kinky” but once I started experimenting I knew at that point I definitely was, haha. Over the years my reasons for enjoying submission have grown and the more I learned about BDSM and the lifestyle the more I started exploring the mental aspect of submission. And here I find myself with the best Dom in my 15 years as a sub.    **THE DOM:** My Dom is linked to my profile. I encourage you to go read his profile as well but I will share my thoughts on this absolutely amazing man/Dom. He is very caring, sweet, playful and funny. He is a TRUE Dom. While he is absolutely amazing in the bedroom, he is even more amazing outside of it. He loves to help/watch things grow (plants and people alike)! Where other Doms lack clarity in what they want he knows exactly what he wants and expects of his submissives. He does not expect perfection but he does expect effort and progress. He cares about you not just as a submissive but as a person. His focus as a Dom is the betterment of the submissive both in the dynamic and in her personal life. He created a program called Betterment BDSM where he uses the Dom/sub dynamic to help women overcome past trauma, low self-esteem, poor self-confidence, anxiety, etc. It has been truly remarkable to watch him interact with the few young women we’ve encountered and see them begin to open up and break down their walls. It’s one thing to know from personal experience but to see him help other women start breaking down walls and break through barriers has been absolutely amazing to be apart of. He is truly the best Dom I’ve had. Words can’t explain how extraordinary he is, you’d have to meet him yourself. If you’re lucky enough, you’ll definitely agree!    **OUR DYNAMIC:** We love to explore sexually but our dynamic is not just kink or BDSM it is a lifestyle. Our dynamic is one of understanding, growth, betterment, laughter, passion and of course kink. The Doms wants, needs, pleasure and desires should be a priority. My Dom describes that there are two kind of people and it is absolutely true…there are fountains and drains. A fountain puts into you and a drain takes from you. A submissive who is a fountain to my Dom will definitely receive the same from him in return.    In a normal/ “vanilla”relationship it can be difficult to figure out what your partner needs, wants or expects. Communication can be difficult, right? Even in the lifestyle, fake Doms will leave you wondering what their expectations are or if you’re doing a good job. They can change their rules or protocols if they don’t have them clearly written out.    GREAT NEWS! My Dom’s expectations are clearly written out in a 70+ page Dom/sub contract which is not meant to intimidate but to guide success in the dynamic and as well as personal growth. The contract covers mindset, betterment, rituals, aftercare, hygiene, wardrobe, punishments, chores, hard limits, safe words, as well as many other things. I know this sounds like a lot but the Dom/sub contract gives you a “cheat sheet” for success. What more can you ask for…clear communication achieved…BOOM! Don’t you wish all relationships were that easy!?    Did you have a messed up childhood? Did you have to rely solely (or mostly) on yourself? Do you have trust issues? Do you have low self-esteem or feel unworthy? Are you used to putting everyone else first and not taking care of yourself?    DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE THOSE THINGS???    This is our vision! A Dom who help you grow, guides, supports, and encourages you as a submissive first and foremost and as a woman. And a *** sub (me) to do all the girly things as well as be there to support and guide each other in our journey as submissives and more self-confident women!    **WHY THIS DYNAMIC WORKS FOR ME:** I’ve had many FAKE Doms who had “rules” but they weren’t written out. This means they were open to change at any point. I’ve settled for less than I deserved and lost my self worth along the way. I put up walls and relied on myself because there was no one there to support me or care…even my family was unreliable. Finding my current Dom has been an absolute blessing. He has pushed me in so many amazing ways. Many have been difficult and some have been ***ful but all of them have changed me for the better. I am learning to stand up for myself and be more confident in myself again. I am learning that I have a voice and nothing bad will happen if I use it. He has helped me start finding the power and strength I have within myself again. I have started to love and accept myself. Probably for the first time. I can now say that I am deserving of love and mean it. This is not only the kind of Dom he is but the kind of MAN he is. He truly cares. With him I’m learning how to be a TRUE submissive, while being a strong and confident woman. ❤️    **WHY I WANT A *** SUB:** I am looking for a *** sub personally for a few reasons. I’ve always believed family is made of people who you choose to surround yourself with. That being said, I want to choose that family with my Dom because mine sucks, lol. I have two ***s but we were never close, we didn’t have that “***” bond. I never realized how much I wanted a “***” until I started looking for my *** sub with my Dom. I’d love to find other women like me. Women who are survivors. Women who want to overcome the difficulties they’ve been through. Women that can build each other up and support each other as we break through those walls and learn to love ourselves again. Or hell if you’ve already conquered your walls that’s cool too!    Are you tired of giving more than you receive in a relationship? Tired of not being supported? Not making yourself a priority? Not being able to set boundaries? Are you looking for something different, fun, exciting, earth shattering and life changing? Look no further!    **ABOUT YOU:** Thick or curvy preferred Bisexual or curious Masochists preferred or willing to explore impact play Must have a car Possess a TRUE submissive mindset (please, serve, obey).    **DISCLAIMER:** **-EFFORT AND MINDSET MATTER ABOVE ALL ELSE!!** -Shyness doesn’t work with my Dom. Therefore it doesn’t work with me. -Be detailed in your responses. -If you take the time to message me I will message you in return. But I will not respond to messages that lack substance or effort. **You will be blocked.** Don’t waste my time and I won’t waste yours. -Little or no experience is absolutely fine as long as you are **willing and eager** to learn and put forth **effort**.    If you have read this far or are even remotely curious reach out. If you have questions about our dynamic, reach out. I won’t bite…unless you ask me to. ? Our dynamic is not like any other. We are truly unique!
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.
Female (54) Durham, North Carolina
I don’t use this site very often. if you would like to contact me, find me on fetlife.com - Same username, DarkStarFallen I am basically a 25 year old stuck in a 41 year olds body. I love to have fun, be adventurous, very spontaneous, and continually trying to learn everything I can about myself and life’s mysteries. I am a pretty easy going and laid back kind of chick. I LOVE to laugh, flirt and tease, and have witty conversations. Some of my kinks are: • Submission • Masochism - please hurt me! • Impact Play - love riding crops!!! • CNC - never experienced but would like to! • Bondage - especially rope! • Medfet • Sapiosexual == Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Rope bunny 100% Submissive 94% Slave 94% Masochist 89% Experimentalist 68% Voyeur 27% Degradee 24% Exhibitionist 18% Vanilla 18% Pet 3% Non-monogamist 0% Ageplayer 0% Brat 0% Boy/Girl 0% Primal (Prey) 0% Switch
Female (41) Durham, North Carolina
sassy stylish extrovert entrepreneur, 420 welcoming, music lover, sensual woman, playful, great storyteller, and lover of new experiences and people. Hit me up and let’s make some new experiences
Female (52) Durham, North Carolina
Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @LolaBunny24.7 (open access)
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
Short and simple....I am looking for meaningful connections/relationships while having a good time with you, whether that ends up being short or long term.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
Not currently taking applications from men, I don't have the patience or the time. Curvy and flirty. Tiktok filters have let me know that my eyes are more gray than green. Tattooed. Definitely planning to get more tattoos. Pagan, and very liberal. Politics are personal, and I will not be with conservatives. Period. Not a sub. Not a little. Not interested in being dominated. Not interested in someone 10 + years younger/older than me. That means you must be at least 36 but under 56 to ride this ride. Would prefer someone within 50 miles of me. Please don't start the convo with sex or kink. At the very bare minimum say hello first. My blocking thumb is ever at the ready. My biggest kink is people that read. (Audiobooks are reading) **Cis males are on my nerves. Not accepting applications from them currently. If this offends you, it's about you. Have the day you deserve.**
Female (48) Durham, North Carolina
low key, discreet but fun. love to just chill and vibe after a few drinks.
Female (30) Durham, North Carolina
hiii my interest are weird lol. but basically i just wanna eat someone out but i don’t wanna get naked lol just the person im pleasuring ?
Female (18) Durham, North Carolina

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I am a good innocent girl looking for someone to teach me all about bdsm ?(I’m a physical learner) snap-imkasslol
Female (18) Durham, North Carolina
I am a 5’3 bisexual girl. I enjoy reading, writing, being around my cat, and spending time with people. I am not experienced in the world of BDSM/kink. I am a virgin.
Female (18) Durham, North Carolina
Your Fantasy Bitch 😘 The CERTIFIED Dick Pleaser 🥰 | Pegging & Rimjob Queen I LOVE ASSSS!! | Subs Only Submit To Be My *** Or Faggot Bitch 😜| I This Page Has No Limits .. (You’ve Been Warned) Only Interested In Real Bookings Keep The Small Talk | Twitter :TsunamiMamii1 | Insta:1LadyTruee 💗
Female (23) Durham, North Carolina
low key, discreet but fun. love to just chill and vibe after a few drinks.
Female (30) Durham, North Carolina
hiii my interest are weird lol. but basically i just wanna eat someone out but i don’t wanna get naked lol just the person im pleasuring ?
Female (18) Durham, North Carolina
sassy stylish extrovert entrepreneur, 420 welcoming, music lover, sensual woman, playful, great storyteller, and lover of new experiences and people. Hit me up and let’s make some new experiences
Female (52) Durham, North Carolina
I don’t use this site very often. if you would like to contact me, find me on fetlife.com - Same username, DarkStarFallen I am basically a 25 year old stuck in a 41 year olds body. I love to have fun, be adventurous, very spontaneous, and continually trying to learn everything I can about myself and life’s mysteries. I am a pretty easy going and laid back kind of chick. I LOVE to laugh, flirt and tease, and have witty conversations. Some of my kinks are: • Submission • Masochism - please hurt me! • Impact Play - love riding crops!!! • CNC - never experienced but would like to! • Bondage - especially rope! • Medfet • Sapiosexual == Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Rope bunny 100% Submissive 94% Slave 94% Masochist 89% Experimentalist 68% Voyeur 27% Degradee 24% Exhibitionist 18% Vanilla 18% Pet 3% Non-monogamist 0% Ageplayer 0% Brat 0% Boy/Girl 0% Primal (Prey) 0% Switch
Female (41) Durham, North Carolina
Short and simple....I am looking for meaningful connections/relationships while having a good time with you, whether that ends up being short or long term.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
** I am POLYAMOROUS please please please if that’s all you read and you’re mono then save us both the time** I currently have a DD boyfriend and am looking for a woman as a primary partner for me that is a sub for him as well. As a sub I identify as a little/brat, masochist and prey. Finding another sub that is similar would be awesome and even a switch who would domme for me and sub for him. He has a family so taking some of my neediness off his plate would be amazing 😊 Outside of that I am poly, auDHD, spoonie (it’s definitely big for me to talk about physical can and cants but it doesn’t stop me very often), witchy, and nerdy in my own way. Not going to lie because it’s absolutely not fair to anyone, life is giving me a little bit of a go of it for the last 6-8 months. It’s starting to look up and get better but that doesn’t mean I’m not still working through the struggle that was thrown in my path. I have lost a lot more than I ever want to or wish upon anyone. Be patient with me. I deserve to be treated like the princess I am and will take no less just because times are hard and I need support.
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina
I’m a big white lady, 54 who is looking for her dominant man. I’m looking for long term not a hook up. I also don’t play til I build trust with someone. if you are not serious about building a relationship/friendship I’m not for you. I don’t do hookups. I’m not going to submit to anyone who doesn’t want to build some trust, I’m sorry that’s a hard pass. I’m single, no kids. I like spanking, flogging, bondage. I also like daddy play as well as primal play or rough sex. I would like to try “free use” days or weekends with someone I trust. I’m not a 24/7 submissive. I’m way too independent for that, maybe a designated amount of time or a modified version. There is so more I’d like to experience and learn in the kink world, just asked me about it. If inquiring minds want to know, my bra cup size it’s K, it doesn’t go high enough on the toggle to put it there.
Female (54) Durham, North Carolina
Looking for kinky dates to explore things I’ve never been comfortable asking for before. I love CNC role play, gentle nipple play and nipple orgasms, and creaming all over the place. DMs open here to locals only but you can also watch/message me on OF @LolaBunny24.7 (open access)
Female (37) Durham, North Carolina
Not currently taking applications from men, I don't have the patience or the time. Curvy and flirty. Tiktok filters have let me know that my eyes are more gray than green. Tattooed. Definitely planning to get more tattoos. Pagan, and very liberal. Politics are personal, and I will not be with conservatives. Period. Not a sub. Not a little. Not interested in being dominated. Not interested in someone 10 + years younger/older than me. That means you must be at least 36 but under 56 to ride this ride. Would prefer someone within 50 miles of me. Please don't start the convo with sex or kink. At the very bare minimum say hello first. My blocking thumb is ever at the ready. My biggest kink is people that read. (Audiobooks are reading) **Cis males are on my nerves. Not accepting applications from them currently. If this offends you, it's about you. Have the day you deserve.**
Female (48) Durham, North Carolina
**Most of you will not ready profile BUT I STRONGLY RECOMMEND THAT YOU DO!!**    MY DOM AND I ARE SEEKING A BISEXUAL OR BI CURIOUS WOMAN TO JOIN OUR DYNAMIC…WE HAVE SEVERAL OPTIONS.    AT DOM HAS A **WARDROBE AND MINDSET** FOR ANY SUB WHO ENTERS HIS HOME. THIS IS MEANT TO ENHANCE THE FUN. AND THIS IS A MINIMUM REQUIREMENT.    **WHAT WE SEEK:** My Dom and I are BOTH seeking to add another bisexual, curvy submissive woman to our dynamic. We seek to add to our dynamic in three ways: long term, short term training and playmate. **AGAIN, IF ONE OPTION DOES NOT WORK, THERE ARE TWO OTHERS**    **OPTIONS:**    The **long term submissive** we seek would **potentially** live with us. This is what we are primarily searching for but we understand everyone has different wants/needs and may have different life circumstances. This definitely requires a commitment of time and effort. This option is **24/7.** There are many benefits in exchange for your effort and submission. A few of which include **rent being split three ways, utilities being paid by the Dom, lots of cuddles with me, and two amazing people supporting and encouraging you to be the absolute best you that you can be!!!**    **Short term** is for a submissive who would like **IN PERSON** training. This also requires commitment of time and effort. **A schedule would be made by the Dom in conjunction with you for training in submission, bondage, impact play, wax play and various other curiosities. THIS INVOLVES TRAINING IN SUBMISSION…NOT JUST KINK.**    **Playmate** is open to any woman seeking to explore, play, and have fun. There is no commitment required but certain rules still apply.    **For long term and short term** there is a vetting process initially done through messaging and pictures or video chat. If you aren’t comfortable texting, video chatting and sending pictures we are not for you. After the initial vetting, an in person audition would be required (you must request this) at the Dom’s house. But don’t fret…I’m here to help!!! ?    **For all of the above options you must have a way to us…car, train, bus, Uber, etc…if you’re really interested you’ll make it happen…EFFORT**    Of all three options only ONE is **24/7.** If you have limited availability or are interested in exploring only kink there is still an option for you. Don’t get hung up on just reading the first option. Reading is fundamental, lol.    Our dynamic offers travel potential for the right submissive as the Dom works for the government and we both enjoy traveling as well. This is just ONE of the MANY benefits!!!    **ABOUT ME:** I have been a nurse for almost 13 years. Currently I work at an outpatient clinic on a military base. I left behind the chaotic days of mental health, emergency medicine and ambulatory surgery, lol. Though I realize I thrive under that chaos. I enjoy going to festivals, bowling, the beach/water, movies, restaurants, and wineries. I also enjoy staying in and relaxing. Outside can be too peopley, lol. I am more of a homebody than anything. I love writing and ***ting as well. It’s been a great release as I heal from and process my past trauma.    Sexually my interests vary. With a woman I love kissing and cuddling. I love the softness of a woman. I enjoy eating pussy more than I enjoy receiving (but I won’t stop you from returning the favor, lol). It’s one thing to make a man moan and cum but something different to make a woman moan and cum. I enjoy everything about a threesome. I love seeing my Dom pleased, seeing another woman pleased, being watched pleasing another woman and being watched with my Dom…it’s all so exciting.    As far as kinks I have many! I am definitely a masochist! I enjoy *** so impact play and wax play are two of my favorite kinks. The *** is freeing…rather euphoric. And I love all of the pretty marks left as a reminder. I enjoy restraints, some electric play, blindfolds, clamps, and so much more.    I’ve also recently divulged a (not so secret now) fantasy to my Dom of wanting to top another woman. He has begun to teach me. I’ve helped in a few scenes but I’d love to fully top during a scene if you’re brave enough to be my victim…I mean willing participant, hehe. But keep in mind while this is my fantasy and my Dom is fully supportive with me fulfilling it, I am still his sub, and he would be involved. I’m not seeking to be a Domme or switch even…merely explore my sexuality more.    I first got into submission when I was about 18 (man that makes me feel old!). I initially only explored the kink side of submission. I had always been a little “kinky” but once I started experimenting I knew at that point I definitely was, haha. Over the years my reasons for enjoying submission have grown and the more I learned about BDSM and the lifestyle the more I started exploring the mental aspect of submission. And here I find myself with the best Dom in my 15 years as a sub.    **THE DOM:** My Dom is linked to my profile. I encourage you to go read his profile as well but I will share my thoughts on this absolutely amazing man/Dom. He is very caring, sweet, playful and funny. He is a TRUE Dom. While he is absolutely amazing in the bedroom, he is even more amazing outside of it. He loves to help/watch things grow (plants and people alike)! Where other Doms lack clarity in what they want he knows exactly what he wants and expects of his submissives. He does not expect perfection but he does expect effort and progress. He cares about you not just as a submissive but as a person. His focus as a Dom is the betterment of the submissive both in the dynamic and in her personal life. He created a program called Betterment BDSM where he uses the Dom/sub dynamic to help women overcome past trauma, low self-esteem, poor self-confidence, anxiety, etc. It has been truly remarkable to watch him interact with the few young women we’ve encountered and see them begin to open up and break down their walls. It’s one thing to know from personal experience but to see him help other women start breaking down walls and break through barriers has been absolutely amazing to be apart of. He is truly the best Dom I’ve had. Words can’t explain how extraordinary he is, you’d have to meet him yourself. If you’re lucky enough, you’ll definitely agree!    **OUR DYNAMIC:** We love to explore sexually but our dynamic is not just kink or BDSM it is a lifestyle. Our dynamic is one of understanding, growth, betterment, laughter, passion and of course kink. The Doms wants, needs, pleasure and desires should be a priority. My Dom describes that there are two kind of people and it is absolutely true…there are fountains and drains. A fountain puts into you and a drain takes from you. A submissive who is a fountain to my Dom will definitely receive the same from him in return.    In a normal/ “vanilla”relationship it can be difficult to figure out what your partner needs, wants or expects. Communication can be difficult, right? Even in the lifestyle, fake Doms will leave you wondering what their expectations are or if you’re doing a good job. They can change their rules or protocols if they don’t have them clearly written out.    GREAT NEWS! My Dom’s expectations are clearly written out in a 70+ page Dom/sub contract which is not meant to intimidate but to guide success in the dynamic and as well as personal growth. The contract covers mindset, betterment, rituals, aftercare, hygiene, wardrobe, punishments, chores, hard limits, safe words, as well as many other things. I know this sounds like a lot but the Dom/sub contract gives you a “cheat sheet” for success. What more can you ask for…clear communication achieved…BOOM! Don’t you wish all relationships were that easy!?    Did you have a messed up childhood? Did you have to rely solely (or mostly) on yourself? Do you have trust issues? Do you have low self-esteem or feel unworthy? Are you used to putting everyone else first and not taking care of yourself?    DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE THOSE THINGS???    This is our vision! A Dom who help you grow, guides, supports, and encourages you as a submissive first and foremost and as a woman. And a *** sub (me) to do all the girly things as well as be there to support and guide each other in our journey as submissives and more self-confident women!    **WHY THIS DYNAMIC WORKS FOR ME:** I’ve had many FAKE Doms who had “rules” but they weren’t written out. This means they were open to change at any point. I’ve settled for less than I deserved and lost my self worth along the way. I put up walls and relied on myself because there was no one there to support me or care…even my family was unreliable. Finding my current Dom has been an absolute blessing. He has pushed me in so many amazing ways. Many have been difficult and some have been ***ful but all of them have changed me for the better. I am learning to stand up for myself and be more confident in myself again. I am learning that I have a voice and nothing bad will happen if I use it. He has helped me start finding the power and strength I have within myself again. I have started to love and accept myself. Probably for the first time. I can now say that I am deserving of love and mean it. This is not only the kind of Dom he is but the kind of MAN he is. He truly cares. With him I’m learning how to be a TRUE submissive, while being a strong and confident woman. ❤️    **WHY I WANT A *** SUB:** I am looking for a *** sub personally for a few reasons. I’ve always believed family is made of people who you choose to surround yourself with. That being said, I want to choose that family with my Dom because mine sucks, lol. I have two ***s but we were never close, we didn’t have that “***” bond. I never realized how much I wanted a “***” until I started looking for my *** sub with my Dom. I’d love to find other women like me. Women who are survivors. Women who want to overcome the difficulties they’ve been through. Women that can build each other up and support each other as we break through those walls and learn to love ourselves again. Or hell if you’ve already conquered your walls that’s cool too!    Are you tired of giving more than you receive in a relationship? Tired of not being supported? Not making yourself a priority? Not being able to set boundaries? Are you looking for something different, fun, exciting, earth shattering and life changing? Look no further!    **ABOUT YOU:** Thick or curvy preferred Bisexual or curious Masochists preferred or willing to explore impact play Must have a car Possess a TRUE submissive mindset (please, serve, obey).    **DISCLAIMER:** **-EFFORT AND MINDSET MATTER ABOVE ALL ELSE!!** -Shyness doesn’t work with my Dom. Therefore it doesn’t work with me. -Be detailed in your responses. -If you take the time to message me I will message you in return. But I will not respond to messages that lack substance or effort. **You will be blocked.** Don’t waste my time and I won’t waste yours. -Little or no experience is absolutely fine as long as you are **willing and eager** to learn and put forth **effort**.    If you have read this far or are even remotely curious reach out. If you have questions about our dynamic, reach out. I won’t bite…unless you ask me to. ? Our dynamic is not like any other. We are truly unique!
Female (35) Durham, North Carolina

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